When you get the wind knocked out of you, the nerves of your solar plexus contract, causing the diaphragm – the muscle responsible for moving air in and out of your lungs – to spasm and tighten.
In the gut punch you didn’t see coming, your confidence, motivation, and purpose in a given situation are extinguished – just like that, in one fell swoop. From an energetic, chakra perspective, the fire in your belly goes out.
It is the crushing realization that the space you hold for someone in your life, is not the same as what they hold for you. It is the point-blank truth that a connection is not reciprocal; that when given the chance, you would choose them, but they would not choose you.
These choices are made in moments, confirmed in the yes’s and no’s we communicate. It’s best to accept the no’s – however painful it may be – and honor their boundaries so you can get back to important business of saying yes to yourself.
Someone else will notice, and instead of merely holding the lines, they will use them to create a shared space between you, where both your energies can exist. They will be mindful, curious, and ask questions. And whenever your answer resonates, will kiss you passionately.
It is the breath that loosens the knot in your stomach. The oxygen that ignites your self-expression. A resounding yes your whole body feels.
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